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Polyamory is the practice, desire, or acceptance of having more than one intimate relationship at a time with the knowledge and consent of everyone involved. It is distinct from swinging (which emphasizes sex with others as merely recreational) and may or may not include polysexuality (attraction towards multiple genders and/or sexes)

Welcome to Black & Poly!

B&P is a blog where we ask the questions and share the stories that too often go unexamined because of fear, or shame. Our goal is to provide an eclectic, culturally rich environment, where people can come together to socialize, learn, and share common interests related to polyamorous living.

We encourage thoughtful discussions about sex, relationships, dating and intimacy as it relates to polyamory. Through this communication we strive to create connections and build a community that understands no matter how one “does” poly, there is no one way or right way to do it thus promoting a warm and welcoming environment where all are free to express themselves without fear of judgement.

We want to give those who are in a place of new discovery, a safe, fun and knowledgeable place grow, and LEARN. As this “lovestyle” is one that is fairly new to our community, it is imperative that we take active roles in leading, and teaching each other. Knowledge is power. Lets be our best selves and show the world polyamory is relevant and real.  Love.

Ron Young

Ron and Lisa


Fear can stop you loving… Love can ease your fears”



  1. Confused in DFW 2015

    I am in a pickle.. i been in a relationship for 10yrs with my female..She is white.. and I am black female.. as well..
    I am a lesbian. I am thinking about adding a female to the mix.. she is white as well.. but i am scared.. because the female
    I been with for 10yrs and scared she is going to lose me to the new grl.. and the grl is younger then us. Me and my grl are the same age.. but the new grl is 10yrs younger.. I dont even know if i am going to go thru with it. But i also if i dont want to try it.. but i wonder if i shouldnt at all just because my partner is scared.. i am so confused.. PLEASE…..HELP
    Right now the grl i like is long distance but she have to move and have now where to go and she is willing to move with me and my grl of 10yrs.. and i am talking to her about it.. she is ok with, but i think its just to keep me.. my main grl is the one that got the money and take very good care of me.. and i told her i love her and i would never leave her, but something is missing.. and I dont know what it is but its the younger grl i do know that much. ME and my main grl have been thru alot.. i am even going to take her last name….I dont know how to get her comfortable or if i should try something else that dont have to live with us.. ?
    Answers….from confused in DFW 2015
    ps if it dont work with the long distance grl. where to go and how to go about finding someone here in DFW, but dont have to live with me and my Boo. (women only)(any race)

    • Ron Young

      Sounds like a really tough situation you’re in Confused. One thing I’d recommend is coming out to the great B&P meetups we have in Dallas for support and guidance http://www.meetup.com/Black-Poly-Dallas/ or our online community of over 3000 Black & Polyamorous on FB https://www.facebook.com/groups/blackpolyamory/ . To me, it sounds like you may have a bit of work that needs to be done at home prior to adding others into your relationship. Moving someone in without vetting them for a while might not be the best move for you. Many folks that come to Polyamory for some reason seem to think that since you share an interest of loving more than one that you don’t need to spend time courting and engaging in the normal ups and downs that most relationships go through on their journey to sharing bank accounts, mortgages, and toothbrushes. Take your time, and don’t force her on your SO. There is no law that says she MUST date her because you’re interested in her.

      • Confused in DFW 2015

        that should like a great idea.. but i dont want to be on fb and our other friends. see it.. and be in our business a lil shy abou that.. but decided not to talk to that grl and also.. talk more to my partner and she dont want to be with anyone but one.. so she and I decided if i date a new female that she would have her own place or be out of state love.. or friend.. and things will go down anywhere but home.. 🙂 Thanks much for the talk and being there very helpful not confused but from SMILE

  2. Lauren Cephus

    Hello, I requested an add on Meet Up and FB. My husband and I live in the Philly area and have been exploring opening our relationship to include another partner. We are not sure that we are covering all the bases as we don’t have anyone to consult who is an African American polyamorous couple. We look forward to engaging in conversation.

  3. Sequieta Whitfield

    I am so happy to have stumbled upon your meetup. I have been looking for a forum of black people to explore my belief system of polyamory. I am in San Diego North County and would like to meet with other like minds.

    • Ron Young

      Of course we do. In fact, we have many members with a dynamic such as yours and with lots support for you and your partners. Our group and organization is an all inclusive one, and I look forward to hearing from you 😉

      • Debra

        Thank you for your response. I am very new in my relationship and do not know where to start with questions. I look forward to going through your site and learning more. We are planning a wedding for Valentines Day and I am very excited.

      • Ron Young

        So nice to hear from you Debra! Feel free to click on the Facebook link above to join a community of over 2000 Black & Polyamorous living and loving as you do 😉

  4. von

    I love the B&P group.
    We are constantly learning something new and we have met great people.
    The positive fellowship is awesome.
    Thank You

  5. passionbabigrl

    Ive ben polyamorist for about 3 years with the same sex and opposite sex now.and this lifestyle is the most strongest and enduring one I’ve ever been in.the love and communication is so strong i couldn’t ask for anything better

  6. Bri

    I’ve always been interested in a poly relationship. Looking to find another black female who is to in order to get to know.

    • Ron Young

      Before adding others it is best to learn all their is to know about Polyamory. Feel free to join our fb group just click on the tab at the top of the page and you’ll be directed.

  7. Dan

    Hi! My name is Dan and I am one of the co-producers of the event Beyond The Love (http://www.beyondthelove.org)

    We’d love to have Black & Poly be a presence at our event and would be happy to give you some space for a gather, Black & Poly mini summit, or whatever would support your group. Please let us know if you’d like to be a part of the event at the noted email address.

  8. Michelle

    Hi… Im new to this type of lifestyle…. I’m single and looking for some advice and friends to tslk to… Where is a good place to go chat and get info from???

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